Who Gets Custody of a Child in Divorce ? A Comprehensive Guide

Gabriella Pomare • April 2, 2024

Divorce proceedings bring many challenges, but none are as emotionally fraught as the battle for child custody.


It’s a process that can deeply affect the entire family, stirring up a mix of emotions and concerns about the future.


In such times, the value of experienced legal counsel cannot be overstated.


The Norton Law Group specialises in family law, offering skilled guidance to those navigating the complexities of custody agreements.


This article aims to shed light on how custody decisions are made, emphasising the critical role of legal expertise in achieving a resolution that puts forward the best interests of the child.


Key Points

  • In Australian family law, child custody is known as ‘parental responsibility’, emphasising both parents’ duty to make decisions beneficial for the child’s long-term well-being, with the child’s welfare as the overriding concern in any legal decisions.
  • When parents cannot amicably decide on parenting arrangements post-separation, the court can intervene with legally enforceable parenting orders, prioritising the child’s best interests and safety, especially in contexts of family violence or abuse.
  • Mediation is encouraged as a first step in resolving custody disputes to attain a mutually agreeable solution, with family mediation services offering a confidential, efficient, and less adversarial alternative to court proceedings.


Understanding Child Custody in Australian Family Law


In Australia, the family law system aims to ensure the best interests of the child are met when determining custody arrangements. The law fosters a child-centric approach, prioritising the child’s welfare above all. The concept of equal shared parental responsibility is an integral part of this. It holds a significant role in ensuring the equitable involvement of both parents in decision-making for their children. This principle, enshrined in Australian family law, suggests that both parents should remain responsible for their child’s welfare post-separation.


The Family Law Act (1975) provides a clear framework for making these decisions, outlining specific factors for consideration. These range from who will make significant long-term decisions for the child to how much time the child will spend with each parent. It’s important to note that while the law promotes shared parental responsibility, it doesn’t necessarily imply equal time spent with the child.

For more information, read our recent article on ‘Understanding Family Law in Australia’.


What is Child Custody?

In the context of Australian family law, ‘child custody’ is referred to as ‘parental responsibility’.

Parental responsibility involves both parents’ commitment to making decisions that affect the child’s long-term well-being. This might include decisions regarding the child’s education, healthcare, and other aspects of their life.

Unlike some jurisdictions where ‘custody’ is perceived as a parental right, Australian family law frames parental responsibility as a duty to the child.

The emphasis here is on the child’s welfare rather than the rights of the parent. This perspective centres the child in all decisions, ensuring their needs are prioritised.


Parental Responsibility Under the Family Law Act

Parental responsibility covers a wide array of duties, powers, and authority that parents have in relation to their children. These include responsibilities and obligations. This includes making crucial long-term decisions about the child’s welfare, such as their education, health, and religious upbringing.


The Family Law Act presumes equal shared parental responsibility, meaning that both their parents are required to jointly make significant decisions about their children’s lives. However, this presumption doesn’t equate to a substantial and significant time spent with the child or an obligation to spend time equally.


In some circumstances, the court holds the authority to assign or remove parental responsibility from one or both parents if it serves the child’s best interests. The child’s best interests are always put forward under the Family Law Act, guiding all decisions made by the court.


Navigating Parenting Arrangements After Separation


Mapping out the parenting arrangements post-separation can be quite difficult to navigate. Parents are encouraged to create a mutually agreeable parenting plan that outlines the arrangements for their children post-separation without the need for court involvement.


This plan can include decisions about:

  • Where will the child live
  • How much time they will spend with each parent
  • The split during holiday season
  • Arrangements for education, healthcare, and religion.


Nonetheless, reaching a consensus on a parenting plan isn’t always feasible for parents. In such cases, parents may apply to the family court for parenting orders. These orders are legally enforceable and can include the same considerations as a parenting plan. But before applying, parents must show that they have attempted family dispute resolution, unless exempt due to factors like family violence or child abuse.


Developing a Parenting Plan Amicably

Formulating a parenting plan demands a careful, considerate process upheld by mutual cooperation between parents. When signed and dated, a parenting plan serves as a written record of an agreement about the care of children. It’s a less stressful and more affordable process than pursuing a parenting order through the court.


A parenting plan should consider a wide range of factors, such as the child’s daily care, educational needs, cultural requirements, and, where appropriate, the child’s personal views. The flexibility of a parenting plan means it can adapt over time to meet a child’s changing needs as they grow.


When Parenting Orders are Necessary

At times, even with the best intentions, parents fail to arrive at a harmonious consensus regarding parenting arrangements. In such instances, parenting orders may become necessary. These are legal decisions made by the court that outline the responsibilities of each parent regarding the child’s care, living arrangements, and other aspects of their welfare.


Before initiating court proceedings for parenting orders, parties are required to attempt to resolve the matter and must follow pre-action procedures unless it’s unsafe to do so. If parents still cannot agree, one party can begin the process by filing an application for parenting orders.

It’s important to note that not just parents but also grandparents and other individuals concerned for the child’s welfare can apply for parenting orders.



Equal Shared Parental Responsibility vs. Sole Custody


The Family Law Amendment Act 2023 brought about significant changes in how parental responsibility is perceived. This Act, coming into effect from 6 May 2024, includes the following changes:

  • It removes the presumption of equal shared parental responsibility.
  • It revises the guidelines for courts to determine parenting arrangements.
  • It allows for more customised solutions tailored to individual child needs.


Before the amendment, Equal Shared Parental Responsibility (ESPR) required separated parents to share decision-making on major long-term issues regarding their child without mandating equal time with the child. The court, however, could decide to award sole custody to one parent in situations where shared decision-making may not be feasible or safe, such as in cases involving family violence or significant parental communication issues.


Factors Influencing Custody Decisions

When determining custody, the court’s primary considerations are the child’s best interests. The court prioritises their need to be protected from harm over the benefits of having a meaningful relationship with both parents.


Assessing a parent’s capacity to provide for the child includes their willingness and ability to meet the child’s needs, foster a positive relationship with the other parent, and their overall dedication to the child’s wellbeing and development. The court also takes into account practical considerations in custody arrangements, such as the child’s daily routine, their proximity to educational facilities, and each parent’s ability to provide a stable environment.


Protecting Your Child’s Welfare at All Costs


The court reserves the right to disregard the notion of shared parental responsibility if it best serves the child’s interests, underscoring the child’s welfare as the overriding concern in custody adjudications. To ensure the child’s welfare, the court considers factors like:

  • The child’s age
  • Routine
  • Need for a safe environment
  • The practicality of maintaining relationships with both parents


The court recognises the detrimental effects of family violence on a child’s welfare, including the potential for physical or psychological harm. Such situations may cause psychological harm, affecting the child behaviourally, emotionally, and developmentally. The court assesses protective measures accordingly, prioritising the child’s emotional needs and development during parental separation, seeking to foster positive relationships and ensure their continued well-being.


The Impact of Family Violence on Custody Rulings

Family violence allegations can significantly impact custody rulings. If reasonable grounds suggest family violence or abuse, the court can set aside the presumption of shared parental responsibility and order sole parental responsibility when necessary.


The court not only weighs a child’s right to have meaningful involvement from both parents but also heavily considers their need for protection from harm, especially in the context of family violence or abuse. Allegations of family violence are taken seriously within the Australian family court system. They can significantly impact custody and visitation rights to ensure the child’s welfare is safeguarded.


In such cases, an Independent Children’s Lawyer may be appointed to represent the child’s interests, ensuring that the decision-making takes into account their voice in a protected environment.


If you’re experiencing a domestic violence emergency, it’s crucial to reach out to 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) or a local support service immediately for help and guidance on your next steps, especially concerning child custody law matters.


Financial Responsibilities and Child Support Post-Divorce

Post-divorce or separation, both parents are duty-bound to ensure their child’s financial support. This duty applies irrespective of with whom the child resides. Financial support arrangements can be either handled privately between the parents or facilitated through a child support assessment by Services Australia.


Services Australia is the governmental body responsible for administering the child support program.


Understanding Child Support Assessment

Child support assessment in Australia is based on a formula enshrined in Australian law. This formula takes into account the incomes of both parents, the time each parent spends with the child, and the cost of raising the children. Each parent’s child support income is determined by adjusting their taxable income for a self-support amount and any relevant dependant allowance.


The child support calculation process involves the following steps:

  1. Determine the combined income of both parents.
  2. Use the Costs of Children table to calculate the costs of raising the children, taking into account the number and ages of the children. Costs are capped at a certain income level.
  3. Multiply the positive child support percentage by the costs of the child to calculate the child support amount payable by one parent to the other.



The Role of Mediation in Resolving Custody Disputes


Family mediation services can assist parents in achieving a mutually satisfactory resolution to child custody arrangements after separation. In this process, a neutral third-party mediator aids in resolving disputes by helping both parents determine their issues, find common ground, and work out a mutual agreement


Before court proceedings, the Family Law Act 1975 requires families to attempt dispute resolution, and obtaining a ‘section 60I certificate’ can be compulsory to demonstrate this effort. Mediators should be registered with appropriate bodies to ensure a structured mediation environment, providing a cost-efficient and timely resolution compared to courtroom litigation.


When Mediation May Be Appropriate

Mediation can be a highly effective dispute resolution process. It’s suitable when both parents:

  • Are willing to negotiate
  • Desire a private and confidential process
  • Seek a personalised resolution that may be less stressful and more conducive to open communication.


Mediation is beneficial for parents who aim to preserve their co-parenting relationship and are open-minded to various perspectives. Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) is typically a required form of mediation that parents must undertake prior to initiating court proceedings for parenting matters. However, mediation may not be an appropriate method if the location of one’s ex-partner is unknown or they cannot be contacted.

At the Norton Law Group, we offer expert family law mediation services across Sydney, helping you find amicable resolutions and protect your interests during challenging times.


Learn more about our mediation services.


Legal Service That Focuses on Your Family’s Needs

Child custody and parenting arrangements can be difficult to manage, but having a thorough understanding of the legal guidelines surrounding these cases can simplify the situation. Hiring legal expertise can ensure what’s best for the child is put at the forefront of all parental responsibility decisions.


At Norton Law Group, we delve deep into the complexities of child custody law, offering parents the clarity and support they need during these trying times. By placing the child’s best interests at the heart of every decision, we help you steer through the legal process with the utmost care and professionalism.


If you’re seeking expert legal advice on child custody matters, our doors are always open.

Discover more about our family law services.


Connect with us to schedule a consultation to discuss your situation confidentially and plan a path forward.


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